<h5>Clothes are Overrated</h5>

We are taught that we and how we dress are responsible for how men treat us. My question is where is the sense in that. First of all at no point in time does any person have any control over the behavior of another. The first question should be why men are taught that if a woman is dressed sexy then he has no reason to respect her and has the right to treat her any ole kind of way. That makes as much sense as white folks who say that black people had no rights they were bound to respect. If a woman was walking around but ass naked when a man sees here he has full control over his faculties and can decide to treat her with the decency and respect he would give any other human being or he could be nasty and disrespectful. If a man tells me that I need to put some clothes on for him to treat me with common courtesy and respect then I can correctly assume that he doesn’t respect women at all unless they conform to his idea of what they should do

Isn’t it funny though that men prefer women to dress sexy but only in environments that the men control and if it is for their pleasure. I’ve been doing this experiment in being naked. Mind you with my modesty upbringing being born and raised Muslim, cutting an arm or a leg off is easier than me being naked. And for days after I put up my naked picture on my space I was so uncomfortable. Felt all exposed and couldn’t even look at my picture. The thoughts running through my head were the ideas that I had been taught. That men would disrespect me. That men would consider me a sex object. That I was exposing myself and my biggest worry was what other people would think.

My first experience was that I receive a comparable number of hey sexy nice pic responses as I do from any of my other pictures. I did get a couple more picture comments though. My next realization was that what the fuck do I care and why am I judging myself according to how I have been taught to think with ideas that only serve to give men a free rein in not being accountable for their behavior and to oppress women. My question was why I was judging myself according to standards that I don’t even agree with. So I was like dammit it is my body. If I choose to go around naked, it is my choice.

And lastly what is wrong with being seen as a sex object. At some point or at least occasionally women want to be seen as sex objects. I am slowly but surely releasing my horror over being thought sexy and being found sexually attractive and embracing it as a natural, healthy and positive thing. And once again men don’t mind seeing women as sex objects but only under circumstances that they can control. I trust that I will see the day that women start living for themselves and do what they damn well please just because they feel like it.

Isn’t it interesting that we as women have been taught that it is sinful to use our bodies and our sensuality as part of our arsenal of abilities and assets to get what we want and need? What is the difference between a woman using her sex appeal and a man using his brute strength? There is no way that the universe would create males and females in such an unbalanced manner that each didn’t have its own unique strengths and weaknesses to balance out the other. And of course it is in men’s favor and our disfavor to be ashamed to use our assets to get what we want. Fuck that


So here is my scenario for all of the people who say that clothes do make the woman and if she is dressed like a ho then she should be treated like one and that men can’t help themselves:

If I took five women or similar look and build, lined them up in a row and dressed them in the identical outfit and took one man and recorded his thoughts and responses to each one, I can guarantee you that his response to each woman would be different. Because the reality is that yes your outer appearance and what you wear does have some bearing on how a man responds to you but that is only a part of the story it is far more important how you carry yourself, what kind of energy you are wearing your clothes in and the beliefs and ideas you are projecting on the world.

Mooniez designs clothes for women who like to at least occasionally be extremely sexy and naked. And a classic example is Mooniez Creative Director Halimah who prefers to be as naked as possible. She out of choice is a bra or halter top with her belly out and a mini skirt or a long skirt with a split up the thigh. Hoochie as all get out, or ‘skayntch’ as she calls it but she is never, ever disrespected. Guys give her compliments. Approach her, are definitely interested sexually and otherwise but never be talking crazy and I’ve seen other females with more clothes on than her who guys would say crazy shit to.

So Clothes can make the Woman but it really is your choice.